Instructions for Life in the new millennium from the Dalai Lama:

• Take into account that great love and great achievements involve great risk.

• When you lose, don't lose the lesson.

• Follow the three Rs: Respect for self, respect for others, responsibility for all your actions.

• Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck.

• Learn the rules so you know how to break them properly.

• Don't let a little dispute injure a great friendship.

• When you realize you've made a mistake, take immediate steps to correct it.

• Spend some time alone every day.

• Open your arms to change, but don't let go of your values.

• Remember that silence is sometimes the best answer.

• Live a good, honorable life. Then when you get older and think back, you'll be able to enjoy it a second time.

• A loving atmosphere in your home is the foundation for your life.

• In disagreements with loved ones, deal only with the current situation. Don't bring up the past.

• Share your knowledge. It's a way to achieve immortality.

• Be gentle with the earth.

• Once a year, go someplace you've never been before.

• Remember that the best relationship is one in which your love for each other exceeds your need for each other.

• Judge your success by what you had to give up in order to get it.

• Approach love and cooking with reckless abandon